To understand someone, you must first learn their past

People often said, "what past is past"...

but sometimes, that one should take back that 'past' to understand it better..you know what? that pity past was something that made someone who they are now.
have you ever heard the phrase in malay, "buang yang keruh, ambil yang jernih"?
this phrase, of course, teach us how to accept the thing that happened in the past. but in love, in order to understand your someone now, you must learn about their past cause that was the thing that made who they are today.
i've heard people said that in love we should forget the past and start over new but fellas, you will never understand that someone before you try to understand their past. Don't blame someone for building the walls around them and barricades their heart cause we don't know their past. Maybe in the past, they have been hurt so much that broke them into pieces until it is hard for them to put their trust on someone again.
Well, you might know that trust is like a paper. Once it's crumpled, it can't be perfect anymore. And if yes, it would never be the same again. That's why when someone had their heart broken, they're afraid to open up their heart again and they don't want to go through the phase again. So, i bet you got the point that i'm tryin to highlight here....
The best thing to do is try to be someone that can understand what they have been through in their past so that you know how to treat them better. And yes, it is true that revealing someone's past would make them feel bad but don't ask them directly about their past life. Make them tell you honestly without they feel like being force to tell you. And when they feel free to talk about their past, listen to them and to what they said. Get to know what their mind is like. Cause 97% of people's thoughts are a representation of their true feelings.

To build up a trusting relationship, they must have a courage to do so. Put yourself into theirs and get to know them for who they are and always be honest with them cause for the phase that they've been through, don't make it even more harder for them. And the most important thing is, don't be the person that doesn't understand their someone and simply blame them for the way they act, because you never took even a minute to understand their life in the past.
Well...it's simply and perfectly clear what i really try to put in here is loving is not just by who they are now but who they were and who they'll be in the future. It is true that the best relationship is by put ahead what have happened in the past but still..you need to understand them by their past before putting that past away and keep walking ahead. They'll feel much more appreciated by you if you go through each day understanding them cause by that way, you've showed that you really care about them...^^, Love until your heart burst with the happiness. Living each day with them truthfully not by lie.

Until then, take note..^^, <3

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